The importance of adequate separation
The importance of adequate separation (cribs, nurseries, nannies, etc.).
The psychoanalyst Francoise Dolto argues that there are facts, such as some separations of babies if not handled properly, that could be classified as violent in relation to the child, even if not physically assaulted.
Dolto defines violence as: “It’s when and not said or not said.” Thus always to be accounted for separations, even when you think that babies do not understand what they are told. A child violence could occur at birth when the child is separated from the mother took him to the nursery. Similarly, when arriving at his house was located in another room immediately, because what the child likes is to feel the presence of loved ones and protectors. This is seen clearly by observing the way as placid as a baby sleeps in the room of parents in the first months of life, unlike the concern with lying in his.
Another fact that can be considered violent to the child’s placement in a nursery. Fortunately in our country’s inclusion in many nurseries is done gradually, so the mother goes with an entire first day and the hours dwindle until the child feels secure that her parents will not forget and come back for him. So, by leaving the baby in the nursery, it should say “come back for you later, going to stay in the nursery so many hours with John Doe. Think of you. ”
Also for the child can be a violent act changing the call nana. Sometimes moms are concerned that the baby will become very attached to it, but if the nanny is good, children love him more for his mother. The child is not confused, but mom tells someone else, knows who his mother. Also in these changes should explain the reasons.
Parents should always talk to the baby because the word is, even when that made no longer present. So the children who have not spoken to any separation panic. In talking with the baby in all situations, we will be remembering that the child is not a nice little thing, but a person.