Food and Order Bed Time Without Conflict
Some questions that all parents we do in the education of young children revolve around feeding, sleeping, order, cleanliness, etc..
All too often, some parents insist strictly to the child to eat anything that has helped him. Françoise Dolto argues that there is something perverse in trying to feed a child who is not hungry. He claims that there are stages in which the child does not eat, for example, when he discovers that he can walk because they are fully occupied with the pleasure of discovery. As always the most appropriate approach will be through direct word: we already know that do not feel like eating, if later you feel like you do, when you ask.
In fact, in the psychoanalytic clinic in cases of anorexia and bulimia have concluded that the origin of these eating disorders are many parents who forced their children to eat no matter what. The message of the anorexic is, let me wish, let me be!
In the case of sleep, Dolto recommends the same attitude of freedom. He suggested that “it’s time you go to your room, you can play, read and go to bed when you feel like. Now parents need to be alone and quiet. ” The reason is to respect and integrate the child into adulthood, but also teaching them to respect their parents. To facilitate the above suggests the installation of a bed easy to climb. Perhaps some parents this recommendation may sound unlikely, then you may want to handle a specific time and strictly in which the child should go to sleep, saying: It’s 8:30 am and it’s time to go to sleep. Now parents want to be alone and rest easy.
As to the order of things should be mentioned that the child may begin around age 4. We know that the child likes to take things into the ground, its height and around it. What is useful is, as always, the word: We will clean up your room, you help me?
When it comes to learning to use the bathroom, it’s useless to try to demand it soon. It comes only when the central nervous system is fully formed, which occurs about two or two and a half years. At that time they will be asked to do so naturally as adults do.