Child Adoption (I)
Will they adapt to their new home? Will more conflict than a biological child? How to tell its origin? Looking for natural parents?
Until recent years the adoption is seen as the last option to have children and one situation a little traumatic for couples who could not conceive a child achieve. The adopting parents lived as something that had to hide from others and even to own adopted son, to spare the alleged problems of integration which can undergo a “son different” and that in the future could be interested in his biological family, know or go with her.
But as time has passed many conventions, adoption has been gaining greater acceptance, have been disappearing prejudices which pointed to her, and now very few large cities are surprised to see Hispanic children, blacks and Asians with their adoptive parents .
But some myths still exist, concerns and doubts about the adopted child and the best way to ensure their psycho-emotional health, and their integration into the new home. Here are the answers of the experts.
What attitude should be adopted with certain phrases hurtful?
The feared expressions like “you do not send me because you’re not my mother!” Usually arise during adolescence, when young altered your mind, body and emotions by rapid hormonal changes that cause sudden and frequently hostile behavior toward parents, thereby attempting to differentiate themselves and be independent, for their identity affirms itself.
Although these sentences cause suffering in the adoptive parents are actually hiding the need for more affection and attention of the child, that basically is saying “love me more, do not you ever leave me.”