Something that can be very unpleasant is that children cry . We all agree: there is no need to shout to communicate, therefore, is something to be avoided in our children. But let’s be honest, if a child cries, who taught him to do? Many times we do not realize that unwittingly encourage this bad habit in children.
Origin
Babies have formed a language to express their needs. Therefore they can only run for attention: kick, wiggle hands, pointing, making sounds and … scream. Then the parents, grandparents and the whole family come running. The child screams again. And so every time you want something.
Parents react to the screams moving faster, so that the child stop crying. But it will be temporary, otherwise whenever the screams again. The condition under parents to move more quickly each time, so be anticipating the wishes of his son to prevent this shout. Exactly why do the servants with their masters.
Children learn to scream then it is more practical and effective speech. As the cries than words. Soon the parents also start shouting between them to stop the screams.
Do not ignore the problem, give solution
Parents are responsible to teach appropriate behaviors first children. If we subtract importance, because the kids will never know what behavior is right and what wrong. To achieve independent and responsible to educate children need to show the limits.
Happy people do not yell at the other. If you want your child to grow up respecting others (including you) is important to teach “why” is not well scream. They need the explanation behind the discipline. Of course, reasons depend on the child’s age.
If it is smaller you can tell that bothers the ears of people. A major explains that they must control their emotions and be happy. Also you have to respect other people so that we are respected in turn. These lessons are self-control and should start very early, that are rooted in the personality.
How?
As the child begins to cry you do the following: tell in that calm tone down the voice. Place your finger firmly in his mouth and bring to a secluded spot. Let him know that there remain seated until you speak correctly. That way you give control of the future, decide when to lower his voice and addressed to the other nicely.
As a parent, you’re doing for guidance. You are showing just how inconvenient it is for him scream. It is a good incentive to change their bad behavior and reject power relations. If you get up from where you placed and still screaming, put it back there again and again. If you call and ask if you can stand there in a kind voice answer is in your hands to do, just to stop shouting and is directed to you properly.
Be consistent and do not give up
If you’re in a public place must do the same. Put your finger in his mouth firmly and say, “You can not shout, you should ask what you want in a low voice” (a very young children are told the same with hand signals).
The important thing is that you be consistent with your pattern of Conduct a. Whenever the child cries give a scene you must give the same answer and not get beat. Never ever give up you face this situation. Is your role as a parent to teach your children to consider other people and respect their rights.
Do not yell at your child
Every parent should know before you make a difference in your child first he must change. Be yourself what you want your child to be is the only possible way to teach him to be better because he always repeat your model.
Learn to control your emotions and your child will return the same answer. Do not yell, always contact him using words and speaking in a calm voice, even when behaving undisciplined. Channel it touches you when you deviate and this is only achieved with rationality, balance and strength.
And remember, children are not the center of the universe. Do not treat them as if they would be unhappy people. If you really love your child, teach him to get along with everyone else showing the importance of proper treatment and proper communication. I assure you that growing up, thank you.
Need more information about child discipline? Read here: How to teach children to control their emotions? and How to decrease the aggressiveness of your son?